End Of Your Rope
Sunday, March 7th, 2010
Haven’t we all felt this way one time or another?
And, yes, all we can do is ‘hang on’…………………..
Archive for the ‘I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends’ Category
Perky Perks
Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010
“There are perks to all of my weight gain!”
My friend Jill announced to me the other day…….
“I just went to buy a new bra, and they fitted me in a D cup!!!! D cup!!!”
“….Excuse me while I go and rework my profile on that dating site!!!”
The Perfect Match?
Thursday, June 18th, 2009 
I have a single friend, Jill that has been checking out some of the internet dating sites. Now, quite honestly, I am so glad she is back in the swing of things and starting to date again. You’re probably thinking because I want to see her happy…………..well, yes, but really I have to admit her dating stories are the most entertaining part of my day!
She says on these sites you have to weed out the guys that tend to throw “bad vibes”your way. This would be ones with names like: “Spank Bad Daddy”, “Harry Hung”, or “Sir Pumpalot”.
Ok, now you send little messages back and forth, then finally decide to meet. This is where I warn her (always a mother) to meet in a public place, tell someone where you are meeting, and always carry your cell phone. Maybe some garlic or a taser, too…… I’m sorry, I read alot of serial killer books, and I don’t think there is a question on the form asking if they have a tendency to dismember their dates. I could be wrong……………..
Today Jill was telling us about this one guy she met after work. (Yes, men, you will be ripped apart by all of her friends, and used for blog fodder the next day). Well, it started well enough. He was a human being, and he was breathing. So far, so good.
As they were talking he was concentrating so intently on every word she spoke. She was very impressed to see he was paying such close attention to her. Maybe this was someone with whom she could share meaningful conversations. Jill proceeded to tell him about her job, family, and some of her future goals.
He stood up right in the middle of her conversation……looked down at her and said, ‘I’m sorry, but you are freaking me out! Your hair is the exact same color and style as my mother’s” .With that he turned around and walked out the door. Jill just sat there in shock, her mouth wide open in surprise.
“Perhaps I need to tweak my profile a bit,” she related. “But then again, how bad could Spank Bad Daddy be?”
Oh, man, this is going to be one fun summer………………
My Friends Are The Best Of Friends…..
Monday, June 15th, 2009
I have been rethinking my knee jerk reaction to shutting everything down, just because one person spent a whole post bashing me on their blog. I was so upset and sad, and immediately wanted to shelter myself and hide. I had no desire to confront the issue, it was much, much easier to run.
But, I want to thank so many of you in cyberspace for commenting and emailing me, letting me know you support me. You knew I was not a stalking, lunatic “hater” sending encrypted messages. For heavens sake, I can barely learn out how to add a video to my blog………………let alone trying to figure out how to encrypt!!
Today has been one of reflection. (Oh, man you knew there was going to be a lesson!) No keep reading………don’t leave me yet! After bawling like a little baby, I did toughen up and allowed myself to think things through.
This was a terrible experience for me. I needed to remind myself of a few things:
- Don’t judge people so quickly. Especially if you don’t know them! Words can come out wrong when you say them directly. Can you imagine how difficult it is to add inflection with something written.
- Cyberbullying can take so many avenues. I was bashed by one person, because I was new to her blog. We try and teach our children to be kind to their classmates, especially ones that many not fit the mold. After this one episode I have been through, I cannot imagine what some of our youth have to endure.
- The internet reaches millions of people. It used to be you could tell someone to their face if you didn’t like them. It was between the two of you. Now when you post it on a blog, millions of people will read this and a persons name can be destroyed in a heartbeat.
- Apologize if you are wrong. It could mean so much to someone to let them know you were wrong. ”I’m sorry” could take some of the sting out of a cruel remark.
- Don’t believe everything you hear/read. I have learned that one persons opinion does not necessarily make it true.
I am going to continue to post. I will not bash anyone. Even if they don’t agree with me, I would let it be or email them in private. If I don’t agree with someones post, well then I would just refrain from commenting. You will not find hateful behavior on my blog……………so if you were looking for a cat fight………..wrong place!! Nope, no mud wrestling here! I will just not visit her blog. I don’t want or need any more drama in my life. That’s it…..over……done with……
Blogging is a wonderful outlet for all of us. I have met the nicest and most talented of people here. I am so glad to be with you all again. You are the best!
Thank you for asking me to hang around for awhile……yes, I think I will.
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