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Somedays We All Need A Little Help……

A few weeks ago at work, I had a visit from a gentleman that I knew…….not real well, but I had helped him numerous times fill out paperwork and apply for some government programs.

He was not a senior, but was disabled, mentally challenged and not really able to hold a job.  I knew from filling out forms that “Joe” did not have very much money.  He was usually unkempt, dirty, and his clothes never seemed to fit. He was one of the ones I actually wondered how he managed to live on such a small income from Social Security Disability.

I figured Joe needed my help with something, so I was really taken back when he sheepishly asked  to borrow $20.00…………

My immediate thought was to say no.  I really didn’t want to start something I would be sorry for………

Joe promised to pay me back, and looking at his hunched beaten demeanor, against my better judgement, I said yes.  His face immediately lit up …..all the time swearing he would pay me back.

I handed him the $20.00 bill, knowing full well I would never see it again.  A co-worker was in my office shaking her head and telling me I was nuts.

Today as I was typing away at the computer, I looked up to see Joe.  I cringed…….’here we go’, I thought, ‘he probably needs more money?’

He handed me a crisp new $20.00 bill.  “It’s payday, and I promised I would pay you back” he proudly announced.

All I could do was smile……….my faith in mankind somehow always has a way of getting restored…………

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My Friends Are The Best Of Friends…..

I have been rethinking my knee jerk reaction to shutting everything down, just because one person spent a whole post bashing me on their blog.  I was so upset and sad, and immediately wanted to shelter myself and hide.  I had no desire to confront the issue, it was much, much easier to run.

But, I want to thank so many of you in cyberspace for commenting and emailing me, letting me know you support me.  You knew I was not a stalking, lunatic  “hater” sending encrypted messages.  For heavens sake, I can barely learn out how to add a video to my blog………………let alone trying to figure out how to encrypt!!

Today has been one of reflection.  (Oh, man you knew there was going to be a lesson!)  No keep reading………don’t leave me yet!  After bawling like a little baby, I did toughen up and allowed myself to think things through.

This was a terrible experience for me.  I needed to remind myself of a few things:

• Don’t judge people so quickly.  Especially if you don’t know them!  Words can come out wrong when you say them directly.  Can you imagine how difficult it is to add inflection with something written.
• Cyberbullying can take so many avenues.  I was bashed by one person, because I was new to her blog.  We try and teach our children to be kind to their classmates, especially ones that many not fit the mold.  After this one episode I have been through, I cannot imagine what some of our youth have to endure. 
• The internet reaches millions of people.   It used to be you could tell someone to their face if you didn’t like them.  It was between the two of you. Now when you post it on a blog, millions of people will read this and a persons name can be destroyed in a heartbeat.
• Apologize if you are wrong.  It could mean so much to someone to let them know you were wrong.  ”I’m sorry” could  take some of the sting out of a cruel remark.
• Don’t believe everything you hear/read.  I have learned that one persons opinion does not necessarily make it true. 

I am going to continue to post.  I will not bash anyone.  Even if they don’t agree with me, I would let it be or email them in private.  If I don’t agree with someones post, well then I would just refrain from commenting.  You will not find hateful behavior on my blog……………so if you were looking for a cat fight………..wrong place!! Nope, no mud wrestling here! I will just not visit her blog.   I don’t want or need any more drama in my life.  That’s it…..over……done with……

Blogging is a wonderful outlet for all of us.  I have met the nicest and most talented of people here.  I am so glad to be with you all again.  You are the best!

Thank you for asking me to hang around for awhile……yes, I think I will. 

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Time To Close Up Shop…….

As I was checking out blogs that I enjoy this weekend, I came across a blog writer that totally was bashing me. 

I do not know her, and I just stumbled across her blog, thought a couple posts were interesting and enjoyable and I commented.  I have no idea what I did wrong.  I really think she thinks I am someone else. I truly am not a mean vindictive stalker.

She refers to me as a “hater” and I would hope those that have spent time on my blog know I am about kindness and love.  Not hate.

I felt so bad about this, that I am shaking as I write this.  I would never hurt anyone.

I started a blog, because I enjoyed reading them.  Also as a recent cancer survivor I hoped I could give someone hope, and help them smile a bit through some trying times.  I am a mother and grandmother and I enjoyed sharing some of my life with all of you.  I have met some absolutely wonderful people out there, and I thank you for your wonderful comments.

I am crying as I write this.  Feeling bad that I have upset someone.  Again, I don’t know what I did wrong, but feeling like I do right now is not the feelings I wanted from blogging.  So, I am saying goodbye. 

I will continue to read my favorite bloggers………(you all know who you are), but I will refrain from commenting, as I would never want to take the chance I would offend you.

Bless you all.  I will miss sharing some of the humor in my life. I will miss you.

 Thanks for the short but sweet run!

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This Little Piggy Went To Market………

Have you been shoe shopping lately?

Shoes are my very favorite accessory.
Especially black shoes………. Black shoes are like black pants. You can never have too many pairs.
But I am not a prejudice shoe lover.
I love them all the same.

What’s in this year to adorn my cute tootsies?
Peep toe shoes.
Black patent peep toe shoes.
Brown leather peep toe shoes.
Red peep toe shoes.
Striped or polka dot peep toes shoes.
Peep toe shoes with buckles on them.
Strappy, sexy peep toe shoes.

But……………

Seriously, have you tried to walk in them for one full day?

These are the most painful things I have ever put my feet through!
Now, I know, sometimes ‘beauty must suffer”, but not like this!

Just how could something so darn cute be a source of sheer torture?
My toes have blisters.
The side of my foot has blisters.
My heels have blisters.

And………….Gawd forbid, I pitch them or simply stop wearing them……….
no, not me……

I will just continue to buy sheer band-aids………..
That’s why they made them, right?

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